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The Mystery Method
Control The ConversationOne way women will test your true value is to give a different contextual meaning to what you have said. They will take a different meaning to your statement and twist it so suit their context – usually at your expense. This is a test. Will you stay in your own contextual meaning or will you allow her to impose her meaning and start to apologise or explain yourself? She may ask you questions that are designed to get you to explain your position and offer little comments that are designed to guide you into her way of thinking. You must not take the bait! Other ways girls will test your true value is by offering you signs that they are interested then withdrawing to see if you will begin chasing her. This is a classic approach that women use and you will encounter it often. You must remain true to the system and appear uninterested in her sexually – at least at the beginning! She may also give you false indications that she is totally disinterested in you for the same reasons. She will wait to see if you get worried and try to get her approval and chase her. Be aware that these power games only go on until the woman starts to invest in you. Do not spend the entire night playing mind games with her after all this is about both of you having fun! You will know when a woman is doing this because as a man you have more experience dealing with it than a woman. However, up until now you probably dealt with it in the wrong way! When she does try to test you, you can turn it around and back onto her or you can use the same strategy on her. Many pick-up artists simply choose to ignore it altogether. Most times simply ignoring her comment and jumping into a new conversation is often the best way to deal with it. Some examples of a girl trying to gain control in a conversation would be if you are talking and she makes a comment on your clothes, hairstyle or whatever. Simply turn it around. If she says, “Oh my look at that shirt” simply reply with a question like “do you always wear your make-up that way?” If you were to answer that question or try to justify your position then the context of the conversation would revolve around the fact that you are wearing a distasteful shirt! Impose your context on the conversation! Staying in control of the conversation is important. Although deflection or totally ignoring a girl when she tries this is very effective sometimes you may want to join her in her game - but only if you have already asserted your control. For example if the girl asks you what you do for a living or how old you are reply with, “guess”. This puts you in control. Once she guesses tell her the answer. Then turn it around immediately by letting her think she can do the same. Ask her the same question back. She will almost definitely try the same approach and ask you to guess. You should reply with another question, “do you want me to guess high or guess low?” She will have to answer the question before you give your answer and this keeps you in control and guiding the conversation. Although simple the above technique increases your value in her eyes as you remain in control at all times. A context to avoid which women always use is one that you are chasing her and that she is the prize. You definitely want to avoid this context. You should make it so that you are the prize and make out like she is chasing you. You can so this by subtly implying that you are the prize. Tell her, “I can’t believe this you’ve only be talking to me a short while and already you know what age I am and what I work as. Next you’ll be buying me drinks and trying to take advantage of me. I’m not that easy!” Be sure to smile when you deliver your line and then immediately go into a different conversation so she has no time to repute your comment. Notice also how the above statement implies that she has been talking to you (chasing) and that you are the prize! Would you like to have all the secrets of the seduction masters instantly? Then visit The Mystery Method to find out how you can have them now! |
